By DL Banks
Circumstances are the rulers of the weak; they are but the instruments of the wise.
It’s only after you’ve stepped outside your comfort zone that you begin to change, grow, and transform. Without ambition one starts nothing. Without work one finishes nothing. The prize will not be sent to you. You have to win it. Let the improvement of yourself keep you so busy that you have no time to criticize others. Never lose hope. Storms make people stronger and never last forever. Do not fear failure but rather fear not trying.
I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain. Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way. Life is about accepting the challenges along the way, choosing to keep moving forward, and savoring the journey.
The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward. Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely. Letting go means to come to the realization that some people are a part of your history, but not a part of your destiny. Success is not how high you have climbed, but how you make a positive difference to the world.
Maturity is when you stop complaining and making excuses, and start making changes. Strong people have a strong sense of self-worth and self-awareness; they don’t need the approval of others. We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future. You must learn to let go. Release the stress. You were never in control anyway. The strongest people find the courage and caring to help others, even if they are going through their own storm. To have what you have never had, you have to do what you have never done. If you hang out with chickens, you’re going to cluck and if you hang out with eagles, you’re going to fly.
The biggest wall you have to climb is the one you build in your mind: Never let your mind talk you out of your dreams, trick you into giving up. Never let your mind become the greatest obstacle to success. To get your mind on the right track, the rest will follow. Courage is feeling fear, not getting rid of fear, and taking action in the face of fear.
Once you realize you deserve a bright future, letting go of your dark past is the best choice you will ever make. It’s never too late to change your life for the better. You don’t have to take huge steps to change your life. Making even the smallest changes to your daily routine can make a big difference to your life. People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can’t find them, make them. Action may not always bring happiness, but there is no happiness without action.
At the end of the day, let there be no excuses, no explanations, no regrets.