By DL Banks
Time is a game played beautifully by children.
The only person that deserves a special place in your life is someone that never made you feel like you were an option in theirs. Cruel people offer pity when they no longer feel threatened. However, kind people offer compassion and understanding regardless. Often people that say they “don’t care” actually do. The moment they discuss you with their friends and family, compete with you, bad mouth you to others or react to anything you do or say is when they give themselves away. You can either be saddened or flattered that you effected someone so much. The perspective is yours to determine. If God wanted humans to play chess, he would have made us black or white. Inner demons feed on mind games. trust me, keeping them satisfied with my own twisted way of thinking.
There’s a difference between playing and playing games. The former is an act of joy, the latter an act. Your dignity can be mocked, abused, compromised, toyed with, lowered and even badmouthed, but it can never be taken from you. You have the power today to reset your boundaries, restore your image, start fresh with renewed values and rebuild what has happened to you in the past. People that have been consistently hurt by others in life will only see the one time you hurt them and be blinded to all the good your heart has to offer. They look no further than what they want to see. Unfortunately, most of them remain a victim throughout their life. I’ve come to the point where I never feel the need to stop and evaluate whether or not I am happy. I’m just ‘being’, and without question, by default, it works.
The number of chances you give someone doesn’t tell the world how loving you are without telling them how desperate you are to believe they care as much as you. True love resides in the first chance, stupidity in the second, opportunists in the third and scoundrels in the fourth. Playing the victim role: Manipulator portrays him- or herself as a victim of circumstance or of someone else’s behavior in order to gain pity, sympathy or evoke compassion and thereby get something from another. Caring and conscientious people cannot stand to see anyone suffering and the manipulator often finds it easy to play on sympathy to get cooperation. You cannot outwit fate by placing little sidebets on the outcome of life. It’s either you wade in and play in order to win or you don’t play at all. Games are the most elevated form of investigation. The believability of virtuality is oft superior to the unrealness of reality.
Insecure people only eclipse your sun because they’re jealous of your daylight and tired of their dark, starless nights. Take someone who doesn’t keep score,who’s not looking to be richer, or afraid of losing, who has not the slightest interest even in his own personality he’s free. When you let go of control and commit yourself to happiness, it is so easy to offer compassion and forgiveness. This propels you from the past, into the present. People that are negative, spend so much time trying to control situations and blame others for their problems. Committing yourself to staying positive is a daily mantra that states, “I have control over how I plan to react, feel, think and believe in the present. No one guides the tone of my life, except me!
There is nothing more entertaining then leaving someone speechless. Yet, there is nothing sadder than realizing that person was incapable of retaining half of what you said, and will repeat the story all wrong to someone else. It is not the hand that rocks the cradle that rules the world; it is the person that holds the keys to the kingdom. Lies don’t end relationships the truth does.
The daggers of silence last longer than anything ever spoken.