The Eternal Skeptic
Men are driven by two principal impulses, either by love or by fear.
I will permit no (wo)man to narrow and degrade my soul by making me hate them. There is perhaps no phenomenon which contains so much destructive feeling as ‘moral indignation,’ which permits envy or hate to be acted out under the guise of virtue. I have one problem, I don’t hate people. They disgust me and I want to get away from them. I do not have hatred. I have an escape mechanism. If men could only know each other, they would neither idolize nor hate. Hate looks just like everybody else until it smiles. Until it spins around and lies with lips and teeth carved into the semblance of something too passive to punch. Love me or hate me I promise that it will never make or break me. As long as you hate, there will be people to hate. Not all monsters look like monsters. There are some that carry their monstrosity inside.
Hate is a lack of imagination. Hate can be a deeply stimulating emotion. The world becomes easier to understand and much less terrifying if you divide everything and everyone into friends and enemies, we and they, good and evil. The easiest way to unite a group isn’t through love, because love is hard, It makes demands. Hate is simple. So the first thing that happens in a conflict is that we choose a side, because that’s easier than trying to hold two thoughts in our heads at the same time. The second thing that happens is that we seek out facts that confirm what we want to believe – comforting facts, ones that permit life to go on as normal. The third is that we dehumanize our enemy. People hate as they love, unreasonably. Somewhere between love and hate lies confusion, misunderstanding and desperate hope. Love, when you get fear in it, it’s not love any more. It’s hate.
Hatred is like a long, dark shadow. Not even the person it falls upon knows where it comes from, in most cases. It is like a two-edged sword. When you cut the other person, you cut yourself. The more violently you hack at the other person, the more violently you hack at yourself. It can often be fatal. But it is not easy to dispose of. Please be careful, Anger is an essential part of being human. People are taught to deny themselves anger, and in this, they are actually opening themselves up to hate. The more you deny yourself the freedom to be angry, the more you will hate. Let yourself be angry, and hate will disintegrate, and when hate disintegrates, forgiveness prevails! The more you deny that you are angry, in attempts to be “holy” the more inhuman you will become, and the more inhuman you will become, the harder it will be to forgive. Feelings are something you have; not something you are.
Hatred is self-punishment. Do you think they’re feeling bad because you hate them? Playing the victim role: Manipulator portrays him- or herself as a victim of circumstance or of someone else’s behavior in order to gain pity, sympathy or evoke compassion and thereby get something from another. Caring and conscientious people cannot stand to see anyone suffering and the manipulator often finds it easy to play on sympathy to get cooperation. People who are filled with hate don’t know how to handle love. We are all born and someday we’ll all die. Most likely to some degree alone.What if our aloneness isn’t a tragedy? What if our aloneness is what allows us to speak the truth without being afraid? What if our aloneness is what allows us to adventure to experience the world as a dynamic presence as a changeable, interactive thing? Love turns, with little indulgence, to indifference or disgust: hatred alone is immortal.
Hate isn’t healthy, it damages the hater more than the one who’s hated. It is a curious subject of observation and inquiry, whether hatred and love be not the same thing at bottom. Each, in its utmost development, supposes a high degree of intimacy and heart-knowledge; each renders one individual dependent for the food of his affections and spiritual life upon another; each leaves the passionate lover, or the no less passionate hater, forlorn and desolate by the withdrawal of his object. Simply minding one’s own business is more offensive than being intrusive. Without ever saying a word one can make a person feel less than. Never judge someone’s character based on the words of another. Instead, study the motives behind the words of the person casting the bad judgment. People appear like angels until you hear them speak. You must not rush to judge people by the color of their cloaks, but by the content of their words
In this world, whenever there is light, there are also shadows. As long as the concept of winners exist, there must also be losers. The selfish desire of wanting to maintain peace causes wars and hatred is born to protect love. They hate because they fear, and they fear because they feel that the deepest feelings of their lives are being assaulted and outraged. And they do not know why; they are powerless pawns in a blind play of social forces. An eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth. a burn for a burn. a life for a life. that’s how all this got started. and that’s how it’s going to end.
To truly hate is an art one learns with time.