By: Janice Ford
Over the years, I heard many men say that us “females can never admit when they’re wrong” or that “we are some confused creatures”. As I got older, I began to realize how contradictive Majority of the Female Population really is, and that I probably should have been born a man. I was appalled to see how many female perspectives was totally different from mines, concerning many issues us women and men debate about today:
For instance, if two men find out that they’re dating the same girl they will laugh it off and more than likely dump the woman. Now if two women find out that they are dating the same man, they become enemies and competitors over the titles “main chick” and “side chick”. Another sad truth is, that many women lose their relationship with relatives and close friends over men. Rather the men had cheated with the relative/friend or the peers just cannot get along, in the end the woman will chose the man. The ironic thing is, it’s a slim chance you would see a man turn on his family and friends for a woman. On a personal level, I have lost friends and a relationship with relatives over men. There were situations where I see the male cheating on them or the male that they were dating was trying to pursue me. When I would tell them, it seems as if their frustration was toward me and not him, as if it was my fault that it even happen. You will rarely find a man getting upset at another man for giving him information on the person that he calls himself in a relationship with. I have this conversation with friends and strangers and they also have their stories over losing friendships with females over men. It’s seem as if the “Don’t tell me anything about my man” group is becoming extremely large. They will become angry if you tell them, but angry if you don’t and they find out and find out that you knew. —I know weird right, but this is women logic—
This issue has been going on for generations, but with the help of social media many females are proud to display these thoughts to the public eye, as if this mentality is cute and the “proper way” of thinking. I’ve argued with numerous, if not hundreds of women on this weird logic. I heard excuses such as,” a men is going to be a man so I expect him to hurt me, but not my family and friends”, or even blame him being able to have relations with her as a major factor of her choice. How can we refuse to give our family and friends the same chances as the man? Have we became so desperate for love? Have us Women as a whole lost our way. We accept so much from a man, many things that he will never accept from us. We even turn against each other for men.