First step: The evaluation.
The first step is the most crucial from all the twelve steps, because this is a base from which you will spring into your future creations, new relationships, and most importantly, a new you! When you’ll follow those steps which I will introduce to you in the next articles; eventually you will not only find a perfect match in a relationship for yourself, but as a side effect you will also heal and better all the areas in your life in which you were feeling a lack. Therefore, I advise you to follow closely those steps! Then, put some work to it, because I will set a little homework which will be introduced to you along a way with each of the steps. I know that this does not sound like much fun to you, however; nothing virtuous can be accomplished without some work attached to it!
To arrive at some destination usually we have to first stop, and then recognize where we are at the moment and where we actually want to go! So, the starting point for you is, your NOW, and the destination is your dreams. You can be a single and looking for the one, you can be a divorcee, a widower, or married but not happy… many situations, many options. Which situation is yours, only you’ll know. Take it from there. Analyze what is it that you like about your situation in your current life, and then what is it that you don’t like about it. This should give you a starting point in your journey to self-discovery and fulfillment of your dreams.
To make it easier to understand this process I will give you the examples of my own life. One day I realized that I am not happy anymore, something was wrong… what was it I thought to myself? I was a mother of two awesome boys, a wife, a daughter, but something was still lacking in my life! I realized that I am longing for the passionate love, for the true friendship, for the meaningful partnership, for the respect in a relationship! All that what I mentioned, did not exist in my experience, so I thought to myself then why I am still in this relationship? I do not want to be next twenty years experiencing same routines, same fights, following, same results! I knew at that point, that I have to change something in order to experience a different outcome! In order for me to get to a different place in my life and to find a right person for me, is to apply a different measure which for me was to get a divorce. I understand that not for everyone that step will work, but remember this is my own example to show you how the change could be implemented. So, this is the first step for you to evaluate yourself, however; do not judge yourself, and just simply be open to see the truth.
The homework: Contemplate on it, are you happy?
With Peace and Love,
Marzena D. Pyzio
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