By DL Banks
We are addicted to our thoughts. We cannot change anything if we cannot change our thinking.
A man can stand a lot as long as he can stand himself. He can live without hope, without friends, without books, even without music, as long as he can listen to his own thoughts. I don’t possess these thoughts I have they possess me. I don’t possess these feelings I have They obsess me. As emotions may take apart bit by bit the rational blueprints in our imagination, dreams may expose what is veiled in the safe haven of our thoughts and disclose elements, which bring to light some baffling qualities that we might never have presumed. Do not share your thoughts with people who think that what you are thinking is not worth thinking. Focus on an ocean of positives, not a puddle of negatives.
It’s okay to disagree with the thoughts or opinions expressed by other people. That doesn’t give you the right to deny any sense they might make. Nor does it give you a right to accuse someone of poorly expressing their beliefs just because you don’t like what they are saying. For my true thoughts have spent more time in your company than in anyone else’s, these last two or three months, and where my thoughts are, there am I, in truth. Nothing makes time pass or shortens the way like a thought that absorbs in itself all the faculties of the one who is thinking. External existence is then like a sleep of which this thought is the dream. Under its influence, time has no more measure, space has no more distance.
Sometimes I feel as though there are two me’s, one coasting directly on top of the other: the superficial me, who nods when he’s supposed to nod and says what she’s supposed to say, and some other, deeper part, the part that worries and dreams… Most of the time they move along in sync and I hardly notice the split, but sometimes it feels as though I’m two whole different people. I have no desire for others to take it on themselves to analyze my thoughts. I am without thoughts. I have never, not even once, acted on the basis of any doctrine or philosophy. These are the stories that we tell ourselves and only ourselves, and they are better left unshared. All things remarkable are surprisingly simple; albeit difficult to find.
Think of negative speech as verbal pollution. And that’s what I’ve been doing: visualizing insults and gossip as a dark cloud, maybe one with some sulfur dioxide. Once you’ve belched it out, you can’t take it back. As grandma said, if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all. The interesting thing is, the less often you vocalize your negative thoughts, the fewer negative thoughts you cook up in the first place. Thoughts do more. Words to much. Actions do much more. You don’t have to stay trapped in your thoughts just because you think them.
Guard well your thoughts when alone and your words when accompanied. It’s important that what thoughts you are feeding into your mind because your thoughts create your belief and experiences. You have positive thoughts and you have negative ones too. Nurture your mind with positive thoughts: kindness, empathy, compassion, peace, love, joy, humility, generosity, etc. The more you feed your mind with positive thoughts, the more you can attract great things into your life. Closed in a room, my imagination becomes the universe, and the rest of the world is missing out.
If you are not in control of your thoughts then you are not in control of yourself. Without self-control, you have no real power, regardless of whatever else you accomplish. If you are not aware of the thoughts that you are thinking in each moment, then you are the rider with no reins, with no power over where you are going. You cannot control what you are not aware of. Awareness must come first.
The universe doesn’t give you what you ask for with your thoughts it gives you what you demand with your actions.