By DL Banks
If you do not tell the truth about yourself you cannot tell it about other people.
Most men would rather deny a hard truth than face it. The real things haven’t changed. It is still best to be honest and truthful; to make the most of what we have; to be happy with simple pleasures; and have courage when things go wrong. Do Not Lie to Yourself. We have to be honest about what we want and take risks rather than lie to ourselves and make excuses to stay in our comfort zone. To conceal anything from those to whom I am attached, is not in my nature. I can never close my lips where I have opened my heart.
We are all travelers in the wilderness of this world, and the best we can find in our travels is an honest friend. Freethinkers are those who are willing to use their minds without prejudice and without fearing to understand things that clash with their own customs, privileges, or beliefs. This state of mind is not common, but it is essential for right thinking. Living with integrity means: Not settling for less than what you know you deserve in your relationships. Asking for what you want and need from others. Speaking your truth, even though it might create conflict or tension. Behaving in ways that are in harmony with your personal values. Making choices based on what you believe, and not what others believe. Don’t bend; don’t water it down; don’t try to make it logical; don’t edit your own soul according to the fashion. Rather, follow your most intense obsessions mercilessly.
It takes strength and courage to admit the truth. Seldom, very seldom, does complete truth belong to any human disclosure; seldom can it happen that something is not a little disguised or a little mistaken. To share your weakness is to make yourself vulnerable; to make yourself vulnerable is to show your strength. Let’s tell the truth to people. When people ask, ‘How are you?’ have the nerve sometimes to answer truthfully. You must know, however, that people will start avoiding you because, they, too, have knees that pain them and heads that hurt and they don’t want to know about yours. But think of it this way: If people avoid you, you will have more time to meditate and do fine research on a cure for whatever truly afflicts you. You ask me what forces me to speak? A strange thing; my conscience.
I am not bound to win, but I am bound to be true. I am not bound to succeed, but I am bound to live up to what light I have. Never try to hide things from hardcore thinkers. We get more aggravated, more provoked by confusion than the most painful truths.You have survived. You are here. Confused, screwed up, but here. So, how can you find your way? Is there a chain saw of the soul, an ax you can take to your memories or fears? If you wanted to do something absolutely honest, something true, it always turned out to be a thing that had to be done alone. A great many people think they are thinking when they are merely rearranging their prejudices. My head’ll explode if I allow you to continue with this escapism. You should not honor men more than truth.
This life is yours. Take the power to choose what you want to do and do it well. Take the power to love what you want in life and love it honestly. Take the power to walk in the forest and be a part of nature. Take the power to control your own life. No one else can do it for you. Take the power to make your life happy. If we are not ashamed to think it, we should not be ashamed to say it. Integrity is telling myself the truth. And honesty is telling the truth to other people. Better to get hurt by the truth than comforted with a lie.
Whenever you are about to find fault with someone, ask yourself the following question: What fault of mine most nearly resembles the one I am about to criticize? The answer is good things only happen to you if you’re good. Good? Honest is more what I mean… Be anything but a coward, a pretender, an emotional crook, a Judas: I’d rather have cancer than a dishonest heart.May what I do flow from me like a river, no forcing and no holding back, the way it is with children. There’s one way to find out if a man is honest: ask him; if he says yes, you know he’s crooked.Remember that wherever your heart is, there you will find your treasure.
Honesty is a very expensive gift, Don’t expect it from cheap people.