By DL Banks
Learning to trust is one of life’s most difficult tasks.
When we venture in that unfamiliar sea, we trust blindly in those who guide us, believing that they know more than we do. Love is supposed to be based on trust, and trust on love, it’s something rare and beautiful when people can confide in each other without fearing what the other person will think. Humanity is not without answers or solutions regarding how to liberate itself from Scenarios that invariably end with mass exterminations. Tools such as compassion, trust, empathy, love, and ethical discernment are already in our possession. The next sensible step would be to use them. Trust to some was placing all your insecurities and beliefs in one single person, and hoping he or she wouldn’t squash them. Truth is as straight as an arrow, while a lie swivels like a snake.
We doubt in others, what is in fact in ourselves. The skeletons in your own closet are the things that scare you the most about others; people who come from a background of lying are suspicious of lying in others and so on and so forth. The most trusting of people, are not people who have never been betrayed or who have never felt pain; but the most trusting of people are those who in themselves do not find those things worthy of that blame. We see the world through the eyes of the condition of our own souls. Trust, you give it and you take it away. You believe it with everything you have in you, you allow your heart to trust somebody else. I trusted very few in life, but sometimes you just needed to give in and fight the urge to flee. Where we fall are the stepping stones for our journey.
Relationships should be built on trust and truth. The number of chances you give someone doesn’t tell the world how loving you are without telling them how desperate you are to believe they care as much as you. True love resides in the first chance, stupidity in the second, opportunists in the third and scoundrels in the fourth. In leadership, life and all things it’s far wiser to judge people by their deeds than their speech their track record rather than their talk. Maybe, if you can’t get someone out of your head they were never meant to leave. Perhaps, they were meant to help change you into the person you have been waiting to become. Where there is not community, trust, respect, ethical behavior are difficult for the young to learn and for the old to maintain. Never trust the translation or interpretation of something without first trusting its interpreter.
Trust is knowing that when a team member/partner does push you, they’re doing it because they care about the team/partnership. It was one thing to sacrifice your own life for someone else’s. It was another thing entirely to bring into the mix a third party a third party who knew you, who trusted you implicitly. We’re never so vulnerable than when we trust someone but paradoxically, if we cannot trust, neither can we find love or joy. Faith to me is trusting in every evidence that something is that it is possible, that it is significant, that it is real.Trust is accumulated quickly, due primarily to the brute strength of the man’s gentleness, his thereness. Trusting that you will some time or other do me greater justice than you can do now.
To be a good human being is to have a kind of openness to the world, an ability to trust uncertain things beyond your own control, that can lead you to be shattered in very extreme circumstances for which you were not to blame. That says something very important about the condition of the ethical life: that it is based on a trust in the uncertain and on a willingness to be exposed; it’s based on being more like a plant than like a jewel, something rather fragile, but whose very particular beauty is inseparable from that fragility. Can’t trust no one else to do what you won’t do for yourself. Your mind can go ahead and imagine what it wants to imagine, but a true friend will always remain true, in spite of the false messages running through your mind.
A trusting heart will follow, only those who truly follow their heart.