Chicago Meet, Founders of “When Men Open Up” Dominique Bond & Dexter Peggins Jr.
By Donte Chase Bridges | October 14, 2019
What happens when a black man’s mental health is deferred? What is the outcome of harboring years of repressed anxiety, fear, anguish, and unresolved trauma? What happens when there are no outlets, no shoulders to cry on, and no ways of releasing the emotional baggage that causes suicide rates for men to be 3.5 x’s times higher than our female counterparts?
In a world where men are told not to wear their hearts on their sleeves, a Movement has begun to counteract this toxic culture and give black men a safe space to express the pain that has troubled their lives with no hope of healing. This new movement has painted a picture that highlights black men’s mental, spiritual, and emotional health. Welcome to the new world of When Men Open Up.
“Truly refreshing! One of the things I love the most is that the topics aren’t solely catered to men, meaning women can also relate. Also, people from all walks of life and all age groups can benefit from this information. Getting our men to open up and drop this kind of knowledge is so dope! If you haven’t done so already, definitely check them out- I promise it’ll change your perspective and ignite something in you!” – Porshe Monique
Co-founders of “When Men Open Up” Dominique Bond and Dexter Peggins Jr. are moving the proverbial pendulum towards exposing the effects of trauma on the male psyche when there’s no room for healing. On Saturday, Oct 2nd, 2019, I had a chance to have a one-on-one with these two Thought-Leaders to find out what was the inspiration for creating a movement of this magnitude. From our conversations, I was able to take away some jewels on the subject of men dealing with emotional issues, such as anger.
“When we can get to the bottom of what is influencing the anger in men, we will find that it’s a lack of understanding of what fear is to that person,” explained Dominique Bond. Most men are not able to open up about their emotional states because of fear of judging.
The knowledgeable pair also spoke about gender roles in our society, and how we (men) should challenge them to become more well-rounded individuals.
“A lot of this is learned behavior,” expressed Dexter Peggins Jr. “I noticed that I see a lot of my parenting style within me from my father. Mind you, I have worked hard to become more mindful of having both sides available to my kids. I want my kids to see my in work, at home, and in different way than most way men are stereotyped into being.”
Dominique Bond was able to further explain what it is means to be a balanced man, and what is the true motivation towards becoming the Head of the household should be.
Sometimes you may feel more of a man because you have that house. Sometimes you may feel more of a man because you are able to pay all the bills and afford that car. But you have to be careful of that because you will find yourself doing the right things for your family for all the wrong reasons. Being a provider is about more than providing financially, it’s involves providing spiritually as well intellectually,” calmly explained Dominique Bond.
“When Men Open Up” personifies what it takes to beware of your physical, spiritual, and emotional health. Few men are strong enough to create a platform that sheds light on the taboo subject of emotional healing for struggling males. Although this dynamic duo is starting to gain momentum, one can foresee that the sky is the limit for this tandem. We look forward to witnessing the future achievements of this impactful team.