Bitterness Of Old
Bitterness is how we punish ourselves for other people’s sins.
A person is bound to experience troubling doubts when attempting to forge a viable philosophy for living. When we are young, the world appears as a dream, no desire is unattainable, and no goal is impossible. We do not entertain the notion that the world will blunt our passionate aspirations, we assume that the world will yield to our resolute will. Misfortune, poverty, illness, and death crush a person’s hopes, awakening us to parts of oneself and the world that we previously denied. When fate has spoken harshly we initially feel ruined, life appears as a bleak wasteland. We must then chose to accept a misery ridden existence or rally the courage and fortitude to turn our thoughts from bitterness and regrets, surrender vain notions that we are somehow special and immune from the terrors of a life when reality does not care a wit for our survival
Bitterness is venom that consumes its host. Only courageous hearts can endure the bitterness of truth. There are so many people whose minds do not belong to them. There are so many people whose thoughts have been purchased by people. There are so many people who have made people kings and queens of their thought. There are so many people who cannot sleep because of people. There are so many people whose lives are a small percentage of their own self and a greater percentage of others. When the offenses of people occupy your mind, your mind becomes the offenses of people instead of your own mind. To have your own mind and to be your own self, free your mind. A grateful heart is better than a bitter soul. Bitterness in your heart contaminates love in your soul..
So many lives are in bitterness today not just because of how their pasts were abused, but how they think they were innocent. Bitterness is what happens when we view the things we want which we don’t have. Those harboring bitterness in their hearts have the tendency to alienate themselves from those things that cause the bitter taste. Which is why bitterness never works. Because in order to achieve that which we want but don’t have, we need to be putting ourselves in that river, in those rivers, and flowing in them. Bitterness is an anchor that denies you the right to flow in, and towards, the things that you really wish you had. Grace of the Soul is what empowers you with the ability to be joyful for the ones who have what you don’t yet have. Grace of Soul is the canoe helping you to flow with and in those rivers.
Never let bitterness make a home in your heart; raise the rent and kick it out. Regret comes in four tones that operate in unison to shape our lives. First, we regret the life that we lived, the decisions we made, the words we said in anger, and enduring the shame wrought from experiencing painful failures in work and love. Secondly, we regret the life we did not live, the opportunities missed, the adventures postponed indefinitely, and the failure to become someone else other than whom we now are. American author Shannon L. Alder said, ‘One of the greatest regrets in life is being what others would want you to be, rather than being yourself.’ Third, we regret that parts of our life are over; we hang onto nostalgic feelings for the past. When we were young and happy, everything was new, and we had not yet encountered hardship. As we age and encounter painful setbacks, we experience disillusionment and can no longer envision a joyous future. Fourth, we experience bitterness because the world did not prove to be what we hoped or expected it would be.
Do not give much of your fears to the knife that cuts to bring out blood. Instead, fear the unseen knife that cuts deeper than the knife you see. The unseen knife that inflicts pain in the heart and leaves its indelible footprints on our minds. The unseen knife that is sharper enough to either unite or make all things fall apart. Fear this knife: words. It can make or mar you greatly or badly. Bitter love is better than sweet hate. When bitter, say little; when angry, say nothing; when happy, say much; when joyful, say all. Raise your love so high that anger cannot reach it. A person who is too proud in love will suffer from the devastating bitterness in the end.
There is no greater beast than envy, no greater thief than fear, no greater enemy than greed, no greater predator than wrath, and no greater poison than bitterness. Don’t let anger control you. Don’t let hate enslave you. Don’t let negativity overcome you. Don’t let bitterness conquer you. Life is like that sometimes you have to peel off the bitterness in order to get to the part that is sweet. To achieve peace let go of: guilt, anger, and bitterness. To achieve happiness embrace: virtue, faith, and love.
One who is bitter is seldom a winner.